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2014 x A New Year’s Resolution!

Happy New Year’s everyone!  It’s 2014 already and I’m pretty sure that we’ve all made our New Year’s resolutions for the upcoming year and have probably broken them by now. When 2014 came this year…I failed to make any New Year’s resolutions because I know that I will not keep them.  I break them every year along with everyone else, so I’ve given up on making those resolutions.

I can tell you this, this year I plan to live and follow my dreams.  Whether success comes my way or if I’m hit with an immediate failure, I’m going to get back up and live out the dreams that I’ve had for so long.  2013 was a year of major changes for me.  My daughter and I went through so many rough transitions, but with the love and help from God, family, and friends, we are stronger than we once were.  2014 is a year of untapped opportunities that I plan to take part in full force!

Everyday I am changing, re-evaluating, refocusing, and evolving myself.  If anything, 2014 is my year of opportunities.  As opportunities for growth present themselves, I am willing to take on the challenge and pursue them.  There’s no reason for me to be in the same place in 2015.  2014….I am looking forward to you….and although I do not have a definite resolution in place….I am declaring that this is my year of growth and taking advantage of opportunities as they arise without fear.  And that is something that I’m working on everyday!

How I spent my New Year’s:  Low key, with a cold and plenty of treats to hold me over….


Cupcakes!!!!  2014!!!


This yummy chicken penne pasta from a local Italian grocer…yummmmmmmm!!!!!!!


This was my only glass…it’s sweet but strong…lasted me about two weeks!

That’s how I spent my New Year’s this year, in the house and cozy under a blanket while watching New Year’s Rockin’ Eve and more on T.V. How did you spend New Year’s?  Drop a line below and let me know!

….As always…thanks for stopping by…


Freedom in a New Light


Changes and transitions in life can throw us off, especially when they are unexpected, but you never know what God is up to when they occur.  The older we become, the more difficult it becomes to adapt to major sudden changes in our lives.  Although it can be hard to face change…don’t knock it because it could be a good thing….a very good thing.  People come and go, jobs change, living situations change, money changes, and friends may even change….but if you’re ever looking for something constant, God is.

We cannot control the outside forces that push us to transition into another place in life, however can do have control over how we react to it and whether or not we grow from it.  We cannot even control the reactions of the  people in our lives that may be faced with the same situation and pressure and that can reveal the true contents of the people/ person that we may be around.  We don’t always understand the “why?” or reason things happen…but they do…and if we stay still long enough and remain calm, the reason “why” may be revealed to us.

If I’m talking about changes and transitions so much, then why did I entitle this post “freedom in  a new light?”  Well, because the shifting of people, places, and things that can happen during major life changes can actually bring about a new freedom and light in our lives.  I’ve talked about it before…about 7 months ago I split up with the father of my child.  He refused to allow me to get mines and our daughter’s belongings on numerous occasions.  At first, I admit it set me off…mostly because he doesn’t even provide for her…but God.   He actually ended up trashing and destroying 96% of mines and my daughter’s belongings, but that is okay.  I’m no fool, I prepared for that moment without believing that it would happen.  I began replacing my daughter’s toys, clothing, and shoes before the occurrence.  As for myself, I lost so much weight in the transition that I wouldn’t have been able to fit most of my old clothing anyhow.  However, I was able to retrieve important documents, my daughter’s favorite tutu’s, and my designer bags before he had a chance to trash that.

Yes, this sounds horrible and low down dirty for a person to do, but it was for my good.  I didn’t need that stuff and the more I wasn’t around, the more I didn’t desire that “stuff.”  All of that “stuff” contained old memories that were tossed into the trash, I don’t need them.  I don’t need a daily reminder of how poorly I was treated by someone I devoted myself to and trusted for years.  I am not bashing the individual, I am just saying that through all of that and getting past the emotions of anger and sadness has allowed me to have a freedom in a new light.  Through it all, God kept me.  There is no other way to put it.  The change happened, major life transitions were into place, and I had to remain calm.  Yes, I cried often, very often…but after the tears I did see the new light.  The new light of happiness, freedom, and life that was waiting for me.  I didn’t snap or lash out against the individual, and even to this day I don’t.  I’ve forgiven and now I move on.  I could not control how he reacted to me or individuals nearby, but I could control my emotions and reactions. 

If I didn’t control my emotions or reactions, I’d be out of a job, would have let down my child, and disappointed family and friends.  I was able to remain so calm, that my father had to call me one day and ask “how are you doing with all of this?”  The question caught me off guard, because I just put my daughter as my responsibility ahead of how I was feeling.  She has needs and she has a mommy and loving family that meets them.  I didn’t think twice about my obligations or leaving them and I’m so glad I didn’t.  No matter what comes your way…it’s gonna come, just be conscious of your reaction to life’s events and happenings and trust God.  Always remain calm, peace will get you farther than anger.  Operating off of anger can be poisonous and set you back farther than what you desire.  Always be mindful of how you carry yourself and react around others.  Yes cry, yes scream, yes yell, yes vent to loved ones…but there is a time and a place to do that.  Hey, even get counseling if you need to.  I thought about it once…but when they say time heals all wounds….it’s kind of true, trusting God and allowing time to take it’s course can help.

If you look into my eyes now, you won’t find tears, because they have turned into strength and determination to build a better future for my family.  Sadness was apart of my life at one point, but today I smile and sing, because God has brought me this far and I am truly grateful.  I may not have all the material wealth that I’d like to possess, but I am content with what God has blessed me with and to me, that is living.  What God has blessed me with, I will no longer sit on or just look at idly…but I’m pounding the pavement and have raised a level up to aggressive ambition….if I fail, then so what….doesn’t mean that I’ll give up.  What is success without knowing what failure is?  Failure is not my end.  This new freedom and light of understanding that I posses gives me the strength to carry on knowing that God is with me always.


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Stress x Emotions x I choose to GROW

Eeeekkkk!!!!  Today was not the easiest of days, but I made it!  I guess that’s the best part of the day.  But sheesh!!!  There are some days that I am just appalled, truly appalled by people and their lack of character.  It is truly amazing and sadly deceitful.  Five years ago, I would not have tolerated this at all.  However, I have responsibilities that I take on full time that I must consider before making an irrational decision.  When I made decisions in my early 20’s, it was to benefit me.  However, at this time in my life, I do have to take into careful consideration that I have a beautiful toddler to care for.  Sadly, there is rarely any help or relationship with her father.  That….I still do not understand…but I no longer question what happens.  So much has happened, why should I be surprised anymore?

Any how…I am just venting…but the moral of the story is…I’m learning.  Learning how to cope with the sweet and sour of life.  Life happens and God is in control, all I can do is trust him.  In the mean time, I am more than sure that opportunity will present itself for me to grow and move on into greater positions that I know that God has for me.  I know that many of you may be going through some tough situations, and I encourage you as well to push past the emotions and into the mindset of this being an experience in which you can grow and conquer.


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From Overload to Overcome


There used to be a time when I would look at you with my eyes filled with light a glow.  No one in the world couldn’t tell me that you really weren’t the man I know.  Two sides…two sides to every story and everyone has a past.  But a past filled with skeletons and deceit, for the time I spent with you, I wish I had a receipt.   A receipt to calculate the time and money spent into building a lifetime, a lifetime to only last a short time.  A short time lived with you was our time.  And still…you planned to rid me without a care.  I was in the way, of a place to me so far away.  But that so far away, was very close to home…closer than I knew.  I didn’t know how low of a thing you would do, and not to care who went down with you.  But this I say to you…time is lost and there is love lost.  But the love lost was a fabrication of an unreal situation.  Or rather, I wish it was unreal. 


With the truth exposed and lies to unfold were hard to deal.  I’ve lost many tears and time trying to figure this out in my mind.  But after six months, I’ve come to this conclusion.  Everything happens for a reason and some good times are only for a season.  Our season ended, see what you and your unsuperhero sidekick meant for my harm, God only turned it around for my good.  For so long I wanted to curse the ground you walked on and those who raised you, for being lower than a man.  But…I find that a waste of time and useless initiative to spend my energy.  This energy that I have is daily God given and I refuse to reuse and waste it on you.  The truth and stories untold, themselves have unfolded.  I do not blame anyone, instead, I thank them.  Because this entire experience has set me on the right track, because baby I’m back. 


If I thought I was I was on a sabatacle before, then now I’ve been reborn.  Redone and better than what you knew.  So to you I say, do what you do…because me and my babygirl boo are fine.  With Jesus on our side and the loves of the lives of loved ones around, we are kept in line.  Their strength has strengthened me beyond what you can compare.  If you thought the hulk was dangerous, then you don’t want to see what kind of green I turn, I’m lean and I don’t mean thin.  Because with all the drama and the places I’ve been, I’ve learned to cut what shouldn’t make the cut and wisdom gained is wisdom sustained.  So that bench…it’s an empty bench and that’s cool because I’m single and ready to network and mingle…for my future goals that is.


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One Night can change your “Forever”

We live in a society today where bigger is better and the more you have, the better off you are. The more cars, houses, clothes, and property you have, the higher status you have. Basically….if you have more, you are somebody in this society.  ….but it seems that we have forgotten the power of one.

One job interview can change your career, one person can change your perspective, and one day/ night can truly change your life. Everything that you thought was….no longer is. And everything that you thought was truth is a lie. Even your foundation can be shaken to new proportions and heights. This change can be a good one….or in the eyes of a pessimist…..a bad one.

It’s all about perspective and how you view life. One single moment has changed my life and completely changed how I view and react to life’s circumstances. What didn’t take me down….has only strengthened me. The one thing that I longed for….no longer exists in my life.

But that is okay, because with God’s help, strength, love, and the right people around you, you can overcome your greatest fears and lowest points in life. Just because the end wasn’t how you planned for a career, relationship, home, business, etc….does not mean that life is over. It simply is a sign that it is time to seek God, regroup, refocus, and get to work.

When things fall apart….they don’t get rebuilt with tears. They get built up with the intelligence of the mind and the strength of hands working together. So….don’t give up so easily, because that brighter day is coming.

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